These are the basic ingredients for a healthy relationship. If your relationship is missing one of these, then things are going to be difficult for you.

Mutual Respect.

Does your partner understand how cool you are and why? Does he value who you are and would never challenge your boundaries?

Trust.

Jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what sets healthy and unhealthy relationships apart.

Honesty.

It’s tough to trust someone when one of you isn’t being honest. Without trust, a relationship is doomed.

Support.

Is your partner there with you during good times and bad? Does he support your dreams, aspirations and helps you meet your goals? Does he actively get involved in trying to better you?

Fairness/Equality.

You need to have give-and-take in your relationship. There should never be that selfish and inconsiderate "my way out the highway" attitude.

Separate Identities.

Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don’t, nor give up seeing your friends, nor drop out of activities you love.

Good Communication.

It’s important to ask if you’re not sure what the other person means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place.

Give Each Other Space.

You need a break from now and then in order to maintain freshness in the relationship. It could be a trip to your relative's place for a couple of days, a day/night out with your friends, lunch/movie/dinner with your friends etc etc. Why?

· You have a sense of freedom.

· It makes you realise that you can still be same individual you were before relationship.

· It's refreshes your mind because you are not around the same person all the time.

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